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# The Best and Worst of Times with a Hard Headed Woman
Given that Jane, who also doubles as my wife in a fictional blog world in which my name is Dick, is somewhat of an outspoken, call-it-what-it-is, take-no-prisoners wife, my topic to apply the Dickens best/worst lens is Cat Stevens' "Hard Headed Woman." For those unfamiliar with the song, be sure to play it below.

Fortunately Cat Stevens outlines the benefits of having a hard-headed woman in his song (for the best of times):

- Best - She'll take me for myself.

- Best - I won't need nobody else.

- Best - She'll make me do my best.

- Best - The rest of my life will be blessed.

- Best - She'll have answers.

- Best - She'll not be looking for one who pays.

- Best - She'll make me feel so good.

- Best - My life will be as it should.

### Best of Times

Although Cat Stevens never specifically defines it in his song, a hard-headed woman in my mind is someone who doesn't stand down or hold back when she knows she's right. She speaks the honest truth and puts you in your place when you're acting stupid.

A hard-headed woman doesn't present any false pretenses. She is herself. And she doesn't need all your answers -- she has her own. She expects you to be you, and she's not interested in how much money you make, or how you smooth-talking you are. She's stubborn in her values but rightly so, and helps you keep true to yourself, as she does herself. By keeping true to yourself and your ideals, she inspires you to be your best.

As Cat implies, a hard-headed woman is hard to find. She's not timid and passive. She openly expresses a realistic, practical view, and this forthcoming spirit increases communication between you and her, which makes you feel good (at times). As a result of the good feelings, your life is blessed.